Abuse would be most people’s answer I’d assume. And while I agree that it is unforgivable and an automatic deal breaker… it’s not the ultimate betrayal in my eyes. Cheating is at the tip top of my list. Absolute number one. It breaks you in a way not even a hit or name calling can. It’s a hurt that doesn’t compare to any other. You start to question everything you thought positive about yourself. Why wasn’t just you good enough? At least when he assaulted you or verbally attacked you, he only had eyes for you. Even if those eyes were full of rage that poured fear into yours. It still didn’t cause you to look into the mirror and suddenly spot flaws you never noticed before. It didn’t make you pick apart every interaction you had with another human being and see each word and mannerism as awkward, weird, and humiliating. You questioned what about you made him so mad… but not what about you was so repulsive that it led him to look for something more satisfying and desirable. It changes you and places insecurities that linger in the background indefinitely. Lowers your self esteem and standards so low you accept less than you deserve because you don’t think you can get better. I mean, who would want this? You? And ONLY you? He didn’t. And he was everything to you. Your best friend. And soul mate. If he could connect with you and be truly happy within your presence as y’all were… and step outside your relationship, who else wouldn’t? There’s no way love like that happens twice, right?
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