Unpopular Opinion :

Forgiveness Isn’t Necessary, IF Remorse Isn’t Present! (…and sometimes not even then…)

…EVEN GOD EXPECTS REPENTANCE TO REWARD IT!!!

It is a widely accepted notion that to move on with peace, forgiveness must be given to those who have caused you pain… but I respectfully disagree to the absolute fullest extent of disagreeance. Forgiveness takes focus off the victim who’s in the process of healing from the actions or words of another, and places it on the perpetrator… and that just doesn’t sit right with me. The focal point should always be on the human being who’s repairing the damage left behind at hands of this person! So why would you circle back around and bring the attention back to the other side of the effects of maltreatment? The cause… The cause is what’s holding you back from reaching your fullest potential. You don’t need to do anything related to the cause to bounce back… only doctor the effect and teach healthier ways to cope and live with that cause’s existence. Not change it…  because you can’t… and forgiving it, to me, is an attempt to change it. To lessen its impact and release complete fault from the culprit. And accept a responsibility you don’t own. If they have no remorse, they’re not repenting, and they don’t care… forgiveness isn’t won… because the task that wins hasn’t been completed. It’s simple. And often, even if you check that box, you aren’t awarded forgiveness because some things are unforgivable. And that’s the truth. You can be mended while recognizing their guilt and not offering freeing from the accountability they deserve !!!especially!!! when they don’t even care what it is doing to you. At least not not gifting forgiveness, you know they were wrong and they aren’t getting away with it in your heart, mind, and soul. That doesn’t always leave bitterness and anger like people say. Sometimes it’s liberating and empowering to stand by that when they and/or others don’t. Just something to think about.